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Watch: Nicole Kidman Addresses New “Direction” Amid Keith Urban Breakup

Nicole Kidman has come to this place with wisdom.

Less than two weeks after filing for divorce from Keith Urban following 19 years of marriage, the AMC Theaters brand ambassador, 58, detailed why her favorite aspect of growing older has been learning how to handle whatever life throws at her.

“The best part is the experiences that you’ve accumulated,” Nicole told Harper’s Bazaar in an interview published Oct. 9. “You go, ‘Oh, I’ve been here before. I actually know how to handle this now.’ Or, ‘Maybe I haven’t been in this place, but I’ve experienced something similar to this, and I do know that I will get through it.’”

The Practical Magic actress added, “There’s something to knowing that no matter how painful, or how difficult, or how devastating something is, there is a way through.”

And while Nicole feels equipped to persevere through anything, she is aware that pain is part of the growing process. 

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“You’re going to have to feel it,” she continued. “You’re not going to be able to numb it. You are going to have to feel it, and it’s going to feel insurmountable at times. You’re going to feel like you’re broken, but if you move gently and slowly—and it can take an enormous amount of time—it does pass.”

But while life’s difficult moments have made Nicole stronger, she is driven by being a mom to her daughters Sunday Rose, 17, and Faith Margaret, 14, with Keith, as well as kids Bella, 32, and Connor, 30, with ex-husband Tom Cruise. 

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“My children [give me the] purpose of being their protector and their guide,” the Big Little Lies star explained, “promising them that I’m here and that, no matter what, there’s always a safe place to grow up in.”

Nicole filed for divorce from Keith on Sept. 30, one day after news broke that the pair had been living apart since the beginning of the summer. 

And though Nicole has not spoken directly about her split from Keith, E! News learned she initially tried to save their marriage before ultimately filing for divorce. 

But the former couple have found common ground since then. In the divorce filing, obtained by E! News, the Oscar winner and country singer signed off on a co-parenting agreement that proposes their daughters will stay with Nicole for 306 days of the year as the “primary residential parent,” while they will spend 59 days with their dad.

Read on to look back at the moments that led to Nicole and Keith’s divorce.

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Beginning of Summer 2025: SplitNicole Kidman and Keith Urban privately separated and started living apart at the beginning of summer, E! News learned. But there were many notable moments over the summer that ultimately led to their divorce filing.

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May 22, 2025: Keith Urban Begins His TourHis High and Alive World Tour kicked off in Alabama and he spent the summer traveling across the U.S., Canada and Australia.

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June 20, 2025: Last Public OutingThe pair last appeared together publicly at the FIFA Club World Cup 2025 in Nashville, where they were seen laughing and smiling. 

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June 25, 2025: 19th Wedding AnniversaryIn honor of 19 years of marriage in June, Kidman posted a photo of the couple with the caption, “Happy Anniversary Baby.” Urban commented a heart emoji but did not write a post of his own.

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July 1, 2025: Keith Urban Walks Out of Interview After Nicole Kidman QuestionThe country singer raised eyebrows when he abruptly ended an interview after being asked about Kidman’s onscreen chemistry with costar Zac Efron in A Family Affair.“The first thing I thought of with your beautiful wife, Nicole Kidman, being on so many great movies, TV shows all the time,” a radio host said on Australia’s Mix 102.3’s Hayley & Max in the Morning. “What does Keith Urban think when he sees his beautiful wife with beautiful younger men like Zac Efron having these beautiful love scenes on TV and radio?”Suddenly, Urban disappeared from the call.“He’s disconnected from Zoom,” a radio staffer said. “I think his team hung up on us because they didn’t want us to ask that question.”His rep didn’t respond to E!’s request for comment at the time. 

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July 24, 2025: It’s Revealed That Nicole Kidman Applied for Residency in PortugalE! News learned that the Practical Magic star had submitted application to become a resident of Portugal, with Urban preparing to do the same himself. “Keith was unable to be in Portugal for this appointment as he is currently on tour in the U.S.,” a source with knowledge of the situation told E!, “and it is mandatory for applicants to be physically present in order to apply for the visa. He is scheduled to submit his application at a later date that works with his tour schedule.”At the time, the source said both planned to maintain a permanent residence in Nashville as well.

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Aug. 6, 2025: Sunday Rose Shares Insight Into Family LifeThe couple’s eldest daughter Sunday Rose shed light on on their parenting dynamic in an interview, saying that “there are two big rules” at home.”The first was that I couldn’t explore any kind of fashion work until I was 16,” she told Nylon, “and the second is that school always has to come first, which at first I hated, but I am actually really glad that I have these rules in place because it keeps me in a good mindset.”

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Aug. 19, 2025: Keith Urban Not Pictured in Nicole Kidman’s Family PhotosKidman shared a look at her summer memories with her teens Sunday Rose and Faith Margaret, buther husband was absent from theInstagram carousel.”Summer memories,” the actress wrote. “Now back to school.”

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Aug. 28, 2025: Nicole Kidman’s Lawyer Prepares Parenting PlanIn August, her lawyer prepared a Child Support Worksheet included in a Parenting Plan stating that Kidman and Urban would be “joint custodians” of their teen daughters Sunday Rose andFaith Margaret.However, the Oscar winner was listed as the “primary residential parent,” with the girls spending 306 days a year with their mother and 59 days with their father (Urban will have the children every other weekend.). Neither will pay child support, according to the doc obtained by E! News.“The mother and father will behave with each other and each child so as to provide a loving, stable, consistent and nurturing relationship with the child even though they are divorced,” it stated. “They will not speak badly of each other or the members of the family of the other parent. They will encourage each child to continue to love the other parent and be comfortable in both families.”

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Aug. 29, 2025: Keith Urban Signs PaperworkUrban moved forward with their Marital Dissolution Agreement, getting it notorized in August, per the doc obtained by E! News.The document said that Kidman would “institute divorce proceedings against” him due to irreconcilable differences. It also stated that neither party would be getting alimony or spousal support in their split.The same date, he also signed off on the Parenting Plan.

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Sept. 6, 2025: Nicole Kidman Signs PaperworkA week after Urban, the actress had the Marital Dissolution Agreement notorized as well and signed the Parenting Plan.The same day, a judge signed off on an order that both stars would complete a manditory parenting seminar unless they file for an exemption, per the doc obtained by E! News.

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Sept. 25, 2025: Nicole Kidman Steps Out Still Wearing Wedding RingDespite signing the documents, she still wore her engagement ring during an event at the Academy Museum in Los Angeles.

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Sept. 29, 2025: News Breaks of Their SplitTheir breakup made headlines as E! News confirmed that the pair—who started dating in 2005—had privately called it quits. 

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Sept. 30, 2025: Nicole Kidman Files for DivorceThe Big Little Lies star officially filed to end their marriage, listing their date of separation as the date of filing: Sept. 30, 2025. Their Marital Dissolution Agreement and Parenting Plan were officially submitted the same day to be approved by a court in Tennessee.

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